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Author Topic: Are you "out" at work? -> OT Weight Loss Christopher Finn Film Handler Posts: 20 From: Akron, OH, USA Registered: Jul 2001 posted 02-27-2002 02:59 PM                     Just a question, and perhaps a private one at that, but I was just curious as to how many of us working in the film biz are gay and/or lesbian individuals. Are you out at your theatre? My story is that I am a gay male, have been out for almost ten years and yes, I am out at my theatre. I have never had a problem with anyone where I work, from a 16 year old Usher to my Region Leader. I do believe it has something to do with an individual's own comfort level in their own skin. I do not get offended easily, and I would like to believe that people can learn more about the gay life from me and come away with a heightened sense of awareness and sensitivity. Now don't get me wrong, that is not ALL I am, nor do I wear my gayness as a banner (have been told by some people they had NO idea until I told them), but I really feel that this is a great business to be an out and proud homosexual in. Or, am I mistaken.....?? Tell me your stories if you have them! Thanks, Chris [ 06-16-2008, 08:44 PM: Message edited by: Adam Martin ]  |  IP: Logged Ky Boyd Hey I'm #23 Posts: 314 From: Santa Rosa, CA, USA Registered: Jun 99 posted 02-27-2002 07:11 PM                       Yep, I'm out at work and in the community our theatre is in. Actually its kind of funny becuase I have a business partner, the ubiquitious Ian, and a partner partner. I'm always careful to refer to Ian as my business partner but that hasn't prevented half the county from assuming that we are a couple. When we took over the theatre I didn't make any big announcement, I just am who I am. As we now have a monthly gay men's film series, of which I'm the host, everybody knows and its never been a problem for any of my employees. In fact we joke about it. When Ian and I were invited to attend a community event by one of our assistant managers, Ian wasn't in town and my partner wasn't available, so I took one of the other assistants as my "date". Interestingly we have an almost entirely straight staff, save for one bisexual. We do occasionally here from one pair of customers who inquire if there are any homosexual elements in the film they are about to see. Seems The Closet, The Deep End, Hedwig and Big Eden all in one summer was a little too much for them. Oh well. By the way, I was also one of the very first out people on film-tech. I outed myself when someone made a crack about something seeming gay that I thought was inappropriate. Of course being out and opinionated did get me in a bit of trouble on the forums last year when someone objected to the kissing scene in Billy Elliot and I was like get over it! And so it goes...  |  IP: Logged Rachel Gilardi Madam Moderator Posts: 2214 From: Peabody, MA, USA Registered: Dec 2007 posted 02-27-2002 08:07 PM                     Jeeze Ky, I thought we said our sorry's and were over with this Billy Elliot thing. I posted it wrong and didn't mean it at all like it sounded. I am sorry, again. It was not a comment that was meant to sound like I was gay bashing, I would not do that. I did not like the movie, period. After realizing how it sounds I would have taken it down but I thought that all the other comments on the board would not have made sense. Because it seems to be bothering you so much I will take it off the post. As for the topic, I am Bisexual. I'm not really "out" at work but I am not hiding it either. I am married to a man and the topic has never come up at my "newer" job. At my old theater of employment I was out and so were about half of my staff, male and female. ------------------ Brad, you're pretty darn Chipper yourself!!!  |  IP: Logged Ky Boyd Hey I'm #23 Posts: 314 From: Santa Rosa, CA, USA Registered: Jun 99 posted 02-27-2002 10:26 PM                       Rachel, Don't take it down...I'm amused by the whole thing...I was trying to say, and not doing a very good job of it apparently, that being gay has been more of an issue for me on film-tech than at my own theatre. I've managed to get people upset on film-tech. Look, you said your piece, I said mine, people got offended, we apologized to them and each other, alls well that ends well.  |  IP: Logged Phil Hill I love my cootie bug Posts: 7595 From: Hollywood, CA USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 02-28-2002 03:29 AM                  I've been out of work for about ..... ooops! Wait a sec .... >>> Phil  |  IP: Logged Paul Linfesty Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1383 From: Bakersfield, CA, USA Registered: Nov 1999 posted 04-19-2003 09:42 PM                     quote: I do believe it has something to do with an individual's own comfort level in their own skin. Exactly. People in general won't be comfortable with you until you're comfortable with yourself. As for me, when I did start telling people I was gay, it was always like "Oh, I knew. That's your own private business." That USED to piss me off, cause they would send out those STRAIGHT messages, through talk of their loved ones, etc. But then I learned that was something they needed to get used to as well. It's funny now, but I was always the targeted gay student in high school (the usual name-calling and beatings), even though I didnt TRY to give off any signals and wasn't "out" in a "look, Im gay" sort of way, at least consciuosly). As far as work is concerned several people do know I am gay there. It usually is unspoken by them (there are several closeted ones) which is strange, since we have job protection as part of state law and district policy (I do video production work for a school district). Its always amused me when people say "I cant be out, Id lose my job" when I know openly gay people who work for the same employer (local oil companies, for example. Bakersfied is one of the biggest producers in the United States) and they have experienced no problems with discrimination. So it does come down to personal discomfort. But one thing I learned that after taking that step (and with me its so matter-of-fact that if it comes up in a conversation,i it comes out naturally)is that it really is no big deal, and as long as I dont get defensive about it, no one can make me feel like shit over it. And that attitude will eventually filter through society as well. In 10 years no one will even know what the big deal was about.  |  IP: Logged Manny Knowles "What are these things and WHY are they BLUE???" Posts: 4247 From: Bloomington, IN, USA Registered: Feb 2002 posted 04-19-2003 10:05 PM                     33 5'11" 130# Brn/Grn Sagittarius Enjoys movies (of course), music of all sorts, writing, sex, outdoor restaurants, having tea, spending lazy days on beaches, sex, long drives, psychology, sex, anthropology. Yeah, I'm basically out and about. I'm not bursting into flames or anything but even a busted gaydar will ping if I'm being myself. Um...Rachel, honey....shouldn't there be like over 500 posts here? Now I think there's some validity to the question that was asked the other night -- "I wonder if Brad knows he's running a dating service!?" Seriously, though, I wasn't interested in "going there" on Film-Tech but the "Shame on Kodak" thread changed my mind. So now I'm out here, too.  |  IP: Logged Phil Hill I love my cootie bug Posts: 7595 From: Hollywood, CA USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 04-19-2003 10:46 PM                  Manny! Hubba Hubba! Those stats are HOT! NOW! If you would ONLY get rid of that crap on your face! >>> Phil  |  IP: Logged Manny Knowles "What are these things and WHY are they BLUE???" Posts: 4247 From: Bloomington, IN, USA Registered: Feb 2002 posted 04-19-2003 10:50 PM                     By popular demand -- a new pic is forthcoming -- stay tuned  |  IP: Logged Gunnar Johansson Expert Film Handler Posts: 181 From: Gothenburg, Sweden Registered: Mar 2003 posted 04-20-2003 01:01 PM                        Happy Easter everybody! (Hoping that´s not a religious off-topic remark... ). I´m bisexual, and though I don´t go around introducing myself as one, I´m semi-active in our union, and in our association or what you would call it at campus. Couldn´t do it any other way at "work" when there´s just 7 of us working basically always, and when not working, showing movies, rigging concerts or renting stuff out (or going to school, too I guess) there´s always people there for a beer or a chat or some music... A really tightly knit group... Interesting fact that our room is called Brum, an allegory to LoBs rum (LoB´s room) and is the same word that the humming of 50 Hz is through loudspeakers if you´ve got different grounds... Not really relevant, but I don´t remember what my stats are in "american". We think it´s funny any way. Wasn´t thinking about coming out on this forum, but saw the thread and thought, what the heck. And I´m one of very few swedes... //Gunnar  |  IP: Logged Dan Lyons Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 698 From: Seal Beach, CA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 04-20-2003 03:25 PM                     I've always been out at the various places I've worked. However in most instances I never really came out, but I was ususally asked by coworkers ( which led them to tell me about their "cute friend" and play matchmaker... oh geeez ) Never had any attitude problems from other coworkers because of it. Danny  |  IP: Logged Ian Price Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1714 From: Denver, CO Registered: Jun 99 posted 04-20-2003 04:29 PM                     I'm a closet Heterosexual. I know I'm straight, but none of the girls know or care.  |  IP: Logged Rachel Craven Madam Moderator Posts: 2190 From: Pensacola, FL Registered: Dec 2000 posted 04-20-2003 04:34 PM                     quote: Um...Rachel, honey....shouldn't there be like over 500 posts here? Jeez Manny, it really bothers me when people take something I say out of context from a chat room. I know your just joking around but people keep bringing it up. If you want me to explain what I said--email me. BTW, love the new pic! It's been a while since I posted in this thread...at this point almost everyone at my workplace knows that I am bi-sexual. At first it made a lot of the women uncomfortable but as time passed I became very good friends with most of them. Other then that, I have never really had any problems with people accepting me for the way I am.  |  IP: Logged William Phillips Expert Film Handler Posts: 117 From: Cardigan, Wales, UK Registered: Feb 2002 posted 04-20-2003 04:35 PM                        Me too  |  IP: Logged Matthew Nock Film Handler Posts: 82 From: Bairnsdale, Victoria, Australia Registered: Jan 2003 posted 04-20-2003 09:13 PM                     Out and about well and truly! when I First came out, the girls down stairs said "Oh, great, now we can check out cute guys together" the "boys" upstairs were all fussy about it - til someone from downstairs said "Geez, its not like he is gunna wanna have sex with you or anything! - wake up, he is a great projectionist, you dont need to worry about what he does when he gets home" And from then on, no-one cares  |  IP: Logged

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