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Author Topic: Grandpa's funeral today... Dan Lyons Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 698 From: Seal Beach, CA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 11-08-2003 11:10 PM                     For those who haven't noticed, I've been pretty much absent from FT for the past week. My Grandpa died last week. After a successful recovery from brain surgery a few months back, he lost his balance, slipped and hit his head on his front porch getting the newspaper last week. Grandma found him bleeding there unconscious. He was taken to hospital and kept a few days. He seemed to be recovering just fine, aside from some bruising and small cuts. On Thurs, 30 Oct, the doctors said they'd found bleeding in his brain. My family and Grandma were there on and off that day to visit. Doctors said he would need surgery to remove swelling which would probably leave him incapacitated; that outcome was not something he or anyone else would have wanted. Friday, Halloween morning, he went into a coma and the Dr. gave him 24 hrs to live. My family, aunt and uncle and cousins, all got together in his hospital room that day to "visit", as the doctor said he could still hear us. He died that same night at 11pm. At least he didn't suffer long, hooked up to machines for days on end. I was able to spend a lot of time with him over the past few months, driving him and grandma around town and to doctors appointments. (they live about 9 houses up the road) There's only one thing I regret, though it was out of my control. For over a year now, whenever he would come to my house, which was a few times a week, he'd ask when my projector would be done so I could put on a show for him. Due to circumstances beyond my control, it's not ready still, and he never got the show he was always asking for. I think it would be nice when it's done, to have a little "memorial" screening with Grandma and my family. Today we had the service for him. Approx 100 friends and family showed up, he was very loved. Grandma and my family are doing pretty well, I just got back from her house. It's all very strange, I've never had anyone close to me die before. Danny  |  IP: Logged David Stambaugh Film God Posts: 4021 From: Eugene, Oregon Registered: Jan 2002 posted 11-08-2003 11:46 PM                        Sorry to hear this Dan. My sincerest condolences. The screening sounds like a nice idea.  |  IP: Logged Joshua Lott Expert Film Handler Posts: 246 From: Fairbanks, AK, USA Registered: Nov 1999 posted 11-08-2003 11:56 PM                        I would add that at that screening it would be nice to do a slide show of some favorite family photos.  |  IP: Logged Paul Mayer Oh get out of it Melvin, before it pulls you under! Posts: 3836 From: Albuquerque, NM Registered: Feb 2000 posted 11-09-2003 01:49 AM                        My condolences go out to you Dan. Yes indeed, the screening sounds like a wonderful way to celebrate a life.  |  IP: Logged Paul G. Thompson The Weenie Man Posts: 4718 From: Mount Vernon WA USA Registered: Nov 2000 posted 11-09-2003 01:50 AM                     My condolences, Danny. I hope all is well with you and your family. Just hang in there... Paul  |  IP: Logged Brad Miller Administrator Posts: 17775 From: Plano, TX (36.2 miles NW of Rockwall) Registered: May 99 posted 11-09-2003 03:05 AM                     Sorry to hear about your grandfather passing. Manny put some nice words on the Poopers thread. I think it applies here as well.  |  IP: Logged Daryl C. W. O'Shea Film God Posts: 3977 From: Midland Ontario Canada (where Panavision & IMAX lenses come from) Registered: Jun 2002 posted 11-09-2003 04:06 AM                        Sorry to hear about this Dan. The screening sounds like a great idea.  |  IP: Logged Jeff Stricker Master Film Handler Posts: 481 From: Calumet, Mi USA Registered: Nov 1999 posted 11-09-2003 06:53 AM                     Very sorry, Dan. I'm reminded of my grandfather and how he got me interested photography, movies, radios, etc. He's been gone for over 20 years, but I know how much he would have enjoyed helping me tinker with this vintage 35 mm projection equipment. Think of the good times you've both had. My sincere condolences.  |  IP: Logged Stephen Furley Film God Posts: 3059 From: Coulsdon, Croydon, England Registered: May 2002 posted 11-09-2003 03:01 PM                     My condolences Dan. My parents were old when I was born, they died many years ago, as did the other members of my family that I was in contact with, but I remember how it felt when, one by one, they died, and I know it's not an easy experience to live through. Death must come to all of us someday; it may seem of little consolation now, but at least your Grandfather was spared a long, painful illness, which some suffer. There is very little that anyone can say which will make you feel better about things now, but things will get easier with time. My thoughts are with you at this time.  |  IP: Logged Randy Stankey Film God Posts: 6539 From: Erie, Pennsylvania Registered: Jun 99 posted 11-09-2003 05:59 PM                     The important thing is that you were on good terms with your Grandpa at the "time of fate". That is THE most important thing, in my book. When somebody passes on, the worst feeling in the world is to have something left unsaid or issues left unresolved. Those kinds of things will haunt you for the rest of your life. It sounds like you had good times with him and you had your chance to "make your peace" with him before he died. It can be simple as saying, "I love you." The simple things like speaking three words like that can be worth more than all the money in the world. In a way, you are richer than many of us! If your Grandpa was the kind of person I imagine he was, he could never be disappointed by not getting to see a movie on your projector. I think he knew it was a long, complicated job. I can guarantee he knew it wouldn't be like popping in a video tape and pressing play. I know that he was proud just to see you working on a machine like that. Remember! Your Grandpa came from a time when being a projectionist in a movie theater was a prestigious job! Having a grandson who is even capable of working on, much less OWNING a real movie projector is a real feather in a grandfather's cap! Do you happen to know what one of his favorite movies was? The way I figure, that would be the movie to watch in his honor at your first screening!  |  IP: Logged John Pytlak Film God Posts: 9987 From: Rochester, NY 14650-1922 Registered: Jan 2000 posted 11-10-2003 10:10 AM                        Dan: So sorry to hear of your grandfather's death. It sounds like you had many fun times together that you can remember fondly.  |  IP: Logged Bob Maar (Maar stands for Maartini) Posts: 28608 From: New York City & Newport, RI Registered: Feb 2001 posted 11-10-2003 01:22 PM                        Dan I would like to extend my sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your grandfather. I believe that your grandfather was as proud of you as you are of him. May God bless your entire family.  |  IP: Logged Jim Spohn Film Handler Posts: 95 From: Bakersfield, CA, USA Registered: Jan 2003 posted 11-10-2003 02:30 PM                     Dan.... My thoughts and prayers are with you. It's never easy to loose a loved one but hang in there... Jim  |  IP: Logged Don Bruechert Mmmmmmmmm, bird! Posts: 340 From: Manitowoc, WI, USA Registered: Jan 2003 posted 11-10-2003 03:44 PM                        Dan, sorry to hear of your Grandfather's passing. I never got to meet either of my grandfathers, but I do have vague recollections and a few photos of my great grandfather on my Dad's side... I'm glad you got to have the time with him that you had.  |  IP: Logged Dan Lyons Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 698 From: Seal Beach, CA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 11-11-2003 03:42 AM                     Thanks for all the kinda words. My family is doing pretty well. Danny  |  IP: Logged

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