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Author Topic: Long distance relationships, do they work? Chris Hipp Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1462 From: Mesquite, Tx (east of Dallas) Registered: Jul 2003 posted 08-04-2006 11:57 PM                     I have never been involved in a long distance relationship, hardly even a short distance relationship, but I have noticed something about the long distance relationship. It only seems to work when you have two things. 1st, One person, usually (always) the guy has to be good liar. 2nd, The other person, usually a girl, has to be really dumb. It seems like a magic combination. Anyone else have any opinions?  |  IP: Logged Bobby Henderson "Ask me about Trajan." Posts: 10973 From: Lawton, OK, USA Registered: Apr 2001 posted 08-05-2006 12:16 AM                     Long distance relationships suck ass. Pretty much you need to be in the same city or town. Otherwise it just isn't going to work. Especially these days with gasoline costing $3.00 and up per gallon.  |  IP: Logged Emma Tomiak Expert Film Handler Posts: 238 From: Carrollton, TX, USA Registered: Aug 2003 posted 08-05-2006 12:35 AM                        Well I happen to be in one right now, and I have to say that while it hurts to be away from my guy, it's working out well so far. I think it is working for me because I know I'll be going back soon (in the next year or so). And with email, texting, cheap international phone rates and the like, it's very easy to keep in touch. We spoke about each of us dating others until I returned, but decided that neither of us was interested in that, so we decided to keep dating. Just 8,000 miles apart. Also, my dad dated a lady from Spain for over a year before she moved here to Texas to live with him. He got to visit her once a month or so, having more money than I do for plane tickets and travel, but they stayed in touch through phone and email. She's been living with us for over a year now and things are working out great. I think, to make a long distance relationship withstand the test of distance and time, the people involved must be very committed to each other, and plan to be together (and by that I mean in the same area) in the future.  |  IP: Logged Bobby Henderson "Ask me about Trajan." Posts: 10973 From: Lawton, OK, USA Registered: Apr 2001 posted 08-05-2006 01:18 AM                     I'm going to fucking cry now. Geez. That's so sweet. My cousin Kevin has been married to a really beautiful lady he met who is from Spain. Her name is Pilar. And she really is to die for. That lucky bastard. Hehe. I am truly jealous. Meanwhile, Yours truly is having to weather what he finds in these parts of the dead American sort of Southwest within former "Indian Territory." I'm not lonely... ...but I'm not exactly bending over backwards to be committed to anyone either. It's tough to find someone who is not a chain smoker, a tweeker, a neurotic over-eater, etc. etc. etc. I don't know. My father always loved to float this saying: "Love is like the morning dew. It is as apt to settle on a pile of shit as it as a rose." You may love someone, but you can never know nor control how they think or feel about other people or things they love. When you actually reach a true connection with someone on both the physical and mental level it is really great. You just have to try to make it last.  |  IP: Logged Mike Heenan Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1896 From: Scottsdale, AZ, USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 08-05-2006 01:25 AM                     It seems that if you loved someone, something silly like gas at $3 a gallon shouldn't matter.  |  IP: Logged Chris Hipp Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1462 From: Mesquite, Tx (east of Dallas) Registered: Jul 2003 posted 08-05-2006 03:55 AM                     I would have to agree with Mr Henderson. Gas is ridiculous and if she lives in a different zip code it would be long distance. Let's face it, long distance relationships are bad for the environment. It could be Al Gore's 2008 campaign slogan "Stop Global Warming, Bang Your Neighbor!"  |  IP: Logged Brad Miller Administrator Posts: 17775 From: Plano, TX (36.2 miles NW of Rockwall) Registered: May 99 posted 08-05-2006 07:13 AM                     The short answer is that they absolutely can and do if the two of you are truly in love. I think Mike has it figured out. If you've met someone more than 3 hours travel away, you have to ask yourself if you are really in love with this girl. If you are, then absolutely nothing should get in the way, unless you physically cannot afford to spend the gas or airplane money to get there. You should also ask yourself if this is someone you could forsee actually spending the rest of your life with. If you tell yourself "no", then it's really just a booty call and you aren't in love. Finally, ask yourself how you feel about full frontal male nudity. By the way, I don't agree with the whole zip code thing. You can be one block away and be in two different zip codes!  |  IP: Logged Michael Barry Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 584 From: Sydney, NSW, Australia Registered: Nov 1999 posted 08-05-2006 07:31 AM                     Funny you should ask! I had a running gag with my friends for years due to the fact that every time I would meet a girl she would be from halfway across the country. So I'd meet a girl and my friends would ask, 'So where does this one live...Perth?' (Perth being on the opposite coast to Sydney). Finally, I met a girl 'only' 20kms away or so. That's close compared to what I had before (my previous gf was 80kms away). We're no longer together but to answer the original question - yes, I believe it can work as long as you are planning on doing something about the distance thing sometime. I don't believe it's sustainable long term or on an ongoing basis but it can work until something better is worked out. On the other hand, I wouldn't deliberately go looking for someone long distance as it is a pain in the ass! If you can date someone in the same suburb, it's so much better. And I'll confirm that statement if I ever achieve that feat.  |  IP: Logged Bobby Henderson "Ask me about Trajan." Posts: 10973 From: Lawton, OK, USA Registered: Apr 2001 posted 08-05-2006 01:51 PM                     I agree some people are definitely able to make long distance relationships work. However, I think odds are stacked against most people who try. There's a number of practical sacrifices you have to make. You can't see each other at just any time. Most people have to work Monday through Friday and then only see their significant other on the weekend. Eventually one of two things happen. One person will leave his/her job and location to be with their significant other full time in the same city. More often people just start getting tired of the distance and blocks of time where they're not seeing each other. All those other days during the week start turning into opportunities to spend time with other people. Then they move on to someone else. I've dated women in the Oklahoma City area. That's about the longest distance I think is reasonably practical. The drive there is a bit over an hour from here (doing 80mph on the 75mph turnpike). $30 is spent on gas round trip and then you add in another $5.50 for tolls.  |  IP: Logged Mike Heenan Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1896 From: Scottsdale, AZ, USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 08-05-2006 02:19 PM                     Ironically for people dating each in town, they work M-F also... but they have the advantage of seeing each other those same nights if possible... but then if you're wiped out from work, most likely you see each other only on the weekends. And no I'm not offering tips on your love life, but still justifying the expense of gas vs a relationship seems awfully Costanza-ish, lol.  |  IP: Logged Chris Hipp Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1462 From: Mesquite, Tx (east of Dallas) Registered: Jul 2003 posted 08-05-2006 03:54 PM                     Well maybe Mike Heenan makes enough money to be able to drive 100 miles to get laid, but most of us do not. I used to date a girl that lived about 50 miles away. Gas was around $1.50 at the time, I had no bills to pay so it wasnt a big deal finacially. The biggest problem was the time. You can't just go over there to hang out and then go to work, you have to plan an entire day around it. I can't justify driving two hours round trip for half an hour to an hour of foreplay/sex. Not only would I not have the time now, I also have bills to pay. Sure I could be a loser and move back in with my parents to save money, but living on your own is the first step towards being a man. Brad, tell me, were you the one doing the lying or being lied to? I had no idea you were so sappy. The zip code comment was an exagerration, also known as a joke. Of course you didnt like Anchorman or Ricky Bobby so I can't expect you to understand a good joke. I guess my biggest beef with the LDR is, why put yourself through that? There are single guys and girls all over the place that you can be with, assuming you don't live in Bobby's area. So as long as you are unlike me and have the balls to do something about it then you can have a good partner.  |  IP: Logged Joe Redifer You need a beating today Posts: 12859 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: May 99 posted 08-05-2006 04:38 PM                        quote: Bobby Henderson The drive there is a bit over an hour from here (doing 80mph on the 75mph turnpike). $30 is spent on gas round trip Dude! You get some shitty mileage!  |  IP: Logged Brad Miller Administrator Posts: 17775 From: Plano, TX (36.2 miles NW of Rockwall) Registered: May 99 posted 08-05-2006 05:41 PM                     quote: Chris Hipp Well maybe Mike Heenan makes enough money to be able to drive 100 miles to get laid, but most of us do not. quote: Chris Hipp I can't justify driving two hours round trip for half an hour to an hour of foreplay/sex. Oh sorry, I didn't realize the title of the thread was "Long distance booty calls, do they work?" (I'm surprised no one commented on my quote. I know CH got it.)  |  IP: Logged Mike Heenan Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1896 From: Scottsdale, AZ, USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 08-05-2006 06:27 PM                     Well Chris since you just assume I have the money to do that, I'll let you continue doing so, not my problem. I'm not in a LDR and never have been in one either. I just found bobby's comments interesting , of relationships basically not being worth it if you have to drive an extra 50 miles and shell out a little more money for gas.  |  IP: Logged Mark Gulbrandsen Resident Trollmaster Posts: 16657 From: Music City Registered: Jun 99 posted 08-05-2006 07:17 PM                     Gee, I have a girl friend in every town that I service! You can take that statement how ever you want to.... Mark P.S. Just kinddin of course...  |  IP: Logged

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