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Author Topic: Are all divorces this friendly? Richard Hamilton Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1341 From: Evansville, Indiana Registered: Jan 2000 posted 07-11-2007 10:47 AM                     This was in the local newspaper last month. I never got a call from the reporter, yet they printed a story about me. Very one-sided.  |  IP: Logged Mike Blakesley Film God Posts: 12767 From: Forsyth, Montana Registered: Jun 99 posted 07-11-2007 11:28 AM                        She probably saw the pictures of your Chinese girlfriend on Film-Tech and got mad.  |  IP: Logged Leo Enticknap Film God Posts: 7474 From: Loma Linda, CA Registered: Jul 2000 posted 07-11-2007 05:53 PM                        I've also had the not very pleasant experience of being mentioned in the press without the reporter even bothering to contact me, let alone having the courtesy to let me know that the story was being published - story here (see about two thirds of the way down). Very cleverly, they just stopped short of printing something I could clearly, and without any argument, do them for. They got the reference from an interview with me that was quoted in a much longer article in another publication (can't post a link, as you need a subscription to read archived articles on their site) about standards of literacy among British university students. The Daily Mail boiled it down to two lines, completely out of context. The bit about my having 'left in fury' is complete and utter fiction - I left because I applied for and got a job in a better university! And as for the fury part, there is one individual in my former workplace who I wasn't sorry to see the back of (I'm sure the feeling is mutual), but many others who I'm on very good terms with and still meet socially. The first I knew about this Daily Mail article was when one of my students asked me about it (it isn't a paper I read normally). The bottom line is that the journalists aren't going to waste their time actually speaking to the subject of a story unless they absolutely have to, either to get information they don't have or to cover their asses. If it's in the public domain elsewhere - even if in a totally different context - that's good enough for them.  |  IP: Logged Mark Gulbrandsen Resident Trollmaster Posts: 16657 From: Music City Registered: Jun 99 posted 07-11-2007 07:17 PM                     quote: drive an Escalade I never thought you were that vain..... I wouldn't be caught dead in one of those.... they're strictly pimp'n vehicles. Land Rover all the way! Seriously... we have a part time employee that is in a similar siuation as Richard's and he barely takes any money home... most of his paycheck goes to someplace back East towards the over 40,000 in back support he owes. His present wife is the bread winner... but this guy never gives up and is at work every day. See Richard... instantly you are not in that bad of shape any longer! There IS someone... actually MANY that are far worse off. I also believe there are two sides to the story and one of those sides was definately not represented in that article. But I do hope things work out for both you and your kids...hang in there! Mark  |  IP: Logged Mike Heenan Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1896 From: Scottsdale, AZ, USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 07-11-2007 08:11 PM                     $40,000 in child support Mark? Yikes. The guy I work with is divorced and his projection job is his only job at the moment (he used to do dj'ing at a club for extra cash but that's off for now) and I think he has to pay like $300 a month or something like that, and to top it off he has 4 kids. After paying his rent, support etc, I dont think he has much left for his own, but he's a great dad to his kids and busts his ass. And the worst thing is that I think his wife cheated on him. Feel bad for the guy, makes me think twice about my future...  |  IP: Logged Joe Redifer You need a beating today Posts: 12859 From: Denver, Colorado Registered: May 99 posted 07-11-2007 08:13 PM                        So, what's YOUR side of the story, Richard? You don't seem to be disputing any of it, you just state that they never contacted you. Lesson to be learned: Don't have kids!  |  IP: Logged Mike Heenan Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1896 From: Scottsdale, AZ, USA Registered: Mar 2000 posted 07-11-2007 08:39 PM                     Damn right... or at least get some sort of prenup like the celebrities do.  |  IP: Logged Kara J. McVay Film Handler Posts: 95 From: Delaware, OH Registered: May 2002 posted 07-11-2007 08:52 PM                        Crazy ex's are an awful thing. Not until I met my boyfriends ex did I ever understand how anyone could kill another She has managed to turn his children on him to the point that they wish him dead and want nothing to do with him. Worst thing someone can do to a child is put them in the middle of these adult situations. I do hope you work this out for the children's sake  |  IP: Logged Mark Gulbrandsen Resident Trollmaster Posts: 16657 From: Music City Registered: Jun 99 posted 07-11-2007 09:30 PM                     quote: Mike Heenan $40,000 in child support Mark? Yikes. Yea, am amazed they haven't shown up to lock him up but his check gets docked every pay period so he IS paying it and that first batch of kids are nearly 18 years old now so he won't be responsable for them but he still owes the $$. He works two part time jobs to help as much as possible... and this guy is also a great dad to his two kids... third on the way. Income level doesn't mean hill or beans to Mormons... they just keep popping out kids no matter what happens. On another note I have been thorugh a divorce but no kids involved. I wanted out and pretty much just packed up and left for desert country... but as a gentleman who wanted out would do I left the house to her so as not to leave her high and dry. While we were married(18 years) we collected clocks... over 100 in that time(pun intended!) She collected her clocks and I collected mine which were mainly electromechanical master clocks and self winding clocks. We agreed with both attorneys to split them up as his and her clocks and I was able to move some of them on my first moving trip out here(Thank God!) When the divorce was in progress and before it was all settled she sold off some of the clocks that belonged to me that were still in the house... although she was told not to sell anything by both attorneys.... her selling off those clocks before the divorce settlment cost her a bundle in court. I was still awarded the then value of those antiques by the judge and she had to pay me the value of them when she sold them... which was more than what we paid for them. If I still had all the clocks today that I'd collected over the years I'd be able to sell the collection and not have to work. She could have done pretty much the same thing.... we both lost because of her! Mark  |  IP: Logged Jason Black Phenomenal Film Handler Posts: 1723 From: Myrtle Beach, SC, USA Registered: Nov 2000 posted 07-11-2007 10:34 PM                        I'm left to wonder why you'd air this dirty laundry on a public forum? I'd be pissed, don't get me wrong...  |  IP: Logged Pravin Ratnam Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 844 From: Atlanta, GA,USA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 07-12-2007 12:32 AM                     Richad, so this story refers to you? I thought you put it up as a joke regarding another guy who shares your name. BUt it does look like your attorney was contacted. Why didn't he tell them to contact you if you wanted to give your side of the story personally? $150/week in child support for 2 kids is not that much, to be quite frank.  |  IP: Logged Dave Williams Wet nipple scene Posts: 1836 From: Salt Lake City, UT, USA Registered: Jan 2000 posted 07-12-2007 07:41 AM                        150 wk is 600 month... most people can't pay for life and have six hundred dollars lying around. I pay that much as well, and it takes me and my current wife to barely make ends meet. I have always believed that the person with custody better have the means to pay for the kids on their own or be willing to give them up to someone that does, not drain your ex until they are homeless so that you can get an xbox and a new car. the state of Utah actually THREW OUT both of my exes child support claims. The first one threw it out when they discovered that she had left the state SIX YEARS EARLIER without notifying them, and making NO arrangments for them to come visit me. After a year of no payment, she changed her tune quickly. The other one just was getting mean and vindictive, threatening to take away my paternal rights because I was seven minutes late to the day care ONCE due to a major wreck on I15. Didn't matter to her, but the judge had enough of all the threats. I pay my child support now even though there is no longer any order to do so. I of course held off until I got what I wanted and they know I can kill it at any time. I got lucky, but I wouldn't want to get lucky this way again. Too much pain involved. I feel for you, I really do. So many women get a guy, get a baby, then get packing and rape them financially for the rest of their lives. PRENUP... don't get hitched without one. Prevents this kind of crap. Ciao  |  IP: Logged Mark Gulbrandsen Resident Trollmaster Posts: 16657 From: Music City Registered: Jun 99 posted 07-12-2007 08:37 AM                     quote: Dave Williams the state of Utah actually THREW OUT both of my exes child support claims. Dave, It doesn't surprise me a bit that they threw it out... after all in the "LDS Church Run" state of Utah the man of the house still carries more importance and meaning than the lowly woman does... I'm glad that you are paying though... after all YOU are the father. Were you in any other state you'd probably have been put in jail. Mark  |  IP: Logged Marc Hansen Film Handler Posts: 93 From: Seattle, WA, USA Registered: Dec 2000 posted 07-12-2007 09:14 AM                     Prenup's are wonderfull things. Saved my butt! When we got married I had house, business, realestate, etc. etc. She had one car. She got sued for a traffic accident and when the other side saw the prenup and relized she didn't have anything they cut thier losses and dropped thier case. You can put anything in a prenup, we have custody, child support etc. in ours. Marc  |  IP: Logged Pravin Ratnam Jedi Master Film Handler Posts: 844 From: Atlanta, GA,USA Registered: Sep 2002 posted 07-12-2007 12:26 PM                     600 a month isnt outrageous even for middle class for two kids. That is 7200 a year. Assuming the father doesn't need a big house to house the kids or pay for the food, that is very reasonable. Dont forget the 7200 is tax deductible which means you really are shelling out only very roughly 5000 extra for an entire year for TWO KIDS. If you can't save 5000/ year, do not have kids.  |  IP: Logged

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